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Friday, 27 May 2011

Breastfeeding or slimming?

This morning I had to check if my summer clothes fit as the weather has been so gorgeous and could no longer postpone doing it. I had the pleasant surprise to find out that I fit in last year's clothes, only seven weeks after angel baby girl was born. How fantastic.

Some people might think that it is the breastfeeding, but this is my fourth child and I have breastfed every single of them for at least two months and I never got such good results, so what did I do different? Well, since my last child was born, I trained as a clinical hypnotherapist, a reiki master and an emotional freedom technique practitioner and started my own journey of the slim soul, which in turn led me to write the book (Journey of the soul). This is a totally different approach to slimming than any diet or other offering on the market. It is gentle, easy, inspiring, joyful and it encourages one to enjoy home cooked food and boogie (fun and easy version of exercise).  It offers tools from self help such as journaling to go to the root of the problem, a hypnotherapy CD to keep motivated and various complementary therapies such as Bach flower remedies, etc. It is the only Mind Body and Soul solution for slimming. It does not require scales, counting calories or strenuous exercise and no food is forbidden. How much better than that can it get?

What it does require is commitment to change. Change beliefs. Change habits. Change takes time and dedication because we are creatures of habits, more so ever in our eating patterns. And this is what I have done differently from my previous post pregnancy "diets": I have not worried about food, I have focused on eating nutritious foods, I have eaten when I was hungry and stopped before I was full, I have loved my body exactly as it was, I have eaten mindfully but most important, I had visualised my journey as being easy and effortless. And bingo: it has been and will continue to be.

So I can say with confidence, it doesn't have to be breastfeeding OR slimming. Both can be done at the same time. Isn't that cool?

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Wednesday, 25 May 2011

Lighten up your body

I woke up with a sore throat. Damn. You might wonder what this has to do with slimming. It does. I know why I have this sore throat. It's linked to the throat chakra. I have suppressed something that I needed to express and as a result, my throat chakra got clogged up... before I started my Journey of the Slim Soul, I used to eat to soothe my throat when I felt I couldn't express my emotions safely or I felt no one wanted to listen. If you think about it, words come out of our voice box, it is tempting to use food to soothe our throats when we suppress them. Cigarettes and alcohol can also be used that way too and that's the reason why often people who quit smoking put on weight. In fact I recorded a CD to help with that called "Quit AND slim" as I believe you can both quit smoking and slim at the same time and I feel it's a shame so many women continue to smoke because they are afraid to put on weight.

My background is in healing. I am a Reiki Master. I can see how energy blockages create an overweight body, whether it is only in one part of the body, as for example, shoulders. If I see someone who has very broad shoulders and perhaps weight cumulating in that part of their body, then I wonder if they are not carrying too much. I talk about this in my book. Where you are overweight in your body can give you a clue as to why you are overweight and how to remedy the situation. Most of the people I know who are overweight tend to carry other people's problems or at least refuse other people's help.

So to slim, we must learn to lighten up symbolically and emotionally. We need to learn to not carry our friends and families on our back or the world's problems. After all, it's all about accountability. Do we really do people favours by taking over their problems? It's OK to help from time to time but if you do as a matter of routine and don't let people deal with their issues, particularly our children, then we pay a very high price and we might not actually do them such a favour. I am not asking you to be selfish. I am advocating balance.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Tuesday, 24 May 2011

Reverse psychology

When I am told I can't have something, there are good chances that I am going to start wanting that something more than when I thought I could have it. A "don't" can have much more of an attractive power than a "do" and that is all down to our Monkey Mind... or reverse psychology.

People on a slimming journey have a great adversary to contend with: their Monkey Mind or to say it another way, the conflict in them between their conscious mind and their subconscious. It is the conflict between the two that will lead to sabotage all efforts to slim. Whilst the conscious mind might want something very dearly, the Monkey will act out. If the conscious mind says: "Away with the binging" the Monkey will make sure that you will have one more binge before you go and after you have had it, will argue that since you had one and you ruined it, you might as well have a second one and another one, etc. There will always be a reason to wait, procrastinate, have that one piece of chocolate etc.

There are two ways to defeat the Monkey. One is to declare that nothing is forbidden and that you are going to have everything in moderation. Whilst this is completely in line with the philosophy of the Journey of the Slim Soul, it can work but there is no guarantee. The Second, which works without a fail is to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to clear the conflict between the two opposite desires, the electrical imbalance. Below is a video that I hope will help you to clear your lack of self love which I have recorded to help you start on your own journey. Enjoy!



Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Monday, 23 May 2011

Just see it and so it will be

The reason why I called my book the Journey of the Slim Soul is because I believe that you need to find the slim soul in you first and then the slimming is easy. Most people fight their bodies until they are slim but if they don't have a slim "model" inside, it is harder than necessary and it is temporary.

Naturally slim people have that model. They don't try harder. They trust their bodies and know that no matter what they eat, their weight will be constant without having to do anything about it and without having to deprive themselves. We have all been born naturally slim. The problem is that in the meantime, we learn stuff that has made us fat or overweight. A lot of that "stuff" is mental conditioning and false beliefs about how to go about being slim. The problem is, because the dieting and fitness industry is a billion dollar industry (probably more than that since the obesity epidemic is no longer the privilege of North America) where everyone has an interest in promoting certain ideas and the more these ideas are useless, the more money can be made from them because in effect, the dieter will try, fail, and probably blame himself or herself for it instead of questioning the validity of the advice.

Here at the slim soul, we help you unlearn all those unhelpful myths and get back to basics. But the very starting point is to be able to imagine yourself slim. I had a client who whilst listening to my motivational CD who had an Eureka moment and who saw her slim self dressed up as a belly dancer and the vision was so beautiful she was inspired and moved to tears. Now she can hold that vision in her mind and her body will follow suit. It is "that" powerful.

Do work on your vision of your slim self. That won't happen by looking in the mirror at what you don't want. It will happen by you practising relaxation and creating a mental picture of how you see yourself slim. Most people have that image in their minds and are shocked when they look in the mirror because what they see doesn't reflect what they think they look like or what they would like to look like. And for those of you who think they can't "visualise": as long as you can recognise your front door from your neighbour's then you are the capacity to visualise.  Don't let the belief that you can't, stop you. You can just feel what it feels like to be slim.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

When I don't like what I see in the mirror

Yesterday, when I woke up, I walked to the bathroom and I looked in the mirror and I didn't like what I saw. My face looked square. I had a fat face.

To help me change the way I felt, I took out my release diary. On the journey of the slim soul, I recommend journaling as a way to go deep into things and transform the way we think. I recommend to keep two diaries, and this is the reason why I called this blog the Slim Soul Diaries and not the Slim Soul Diary. One is the positive diary, where you jot down anything that inspires you and uplifts you. It can be a nice recipe, something nice that someone said to you, a quote that you find inspirational. Anything that raises your spirits. The other is the release diary. I could call it the Bin Diary: you write down all your dark and depressing thoughts as a way to empty your mind of negativity. The positive diary is meant to be flipped through on a regular basis. The release diary is not. In fact once a release diary is finished and there is no more room to write in it, I recommend you burn it or bury it. Don't keep the rubbish. You wouldn't go and stir the rubbish in your bin, would you? So why read a release diary full of negativity.

So I engaged with what I called my petty self or my monkey mind in my release diary and here is how it went:

- My monkey: I have a fat face. I am fat. This is not working. You are crazy.
- Me: I know that if I don't like what I see in the mirror, then I should just stop looking in the mirror and focus on feeling good inside. It is only a matter of time before face looks the way I want it to look. If I focus on what I don't want, I get stuck.
- My monkey: this is new age rubbish. Why don't you go on a proper diet?
- Me: No diet has ever worked so I want to try this. Besides, I have tried it before and it works. Remember, I wrote a book about it and I have dozens of testimonials by clients who have found their slim souls.
- My monkey: All right then, I give you six months to get sorted if not, you go on a diet.
- Me: I am sorry but no. I have not stepped off the hamster wheel of diets to jump back on it. They make me unhappy and never work.

After having journalled for fifteen minutes, I felt much better. My monkey had a chance to say what it wanted but my positive self also had a chance to tell it that its thinking was flawed. All was well. And when I looked at the mirror later that day, my face didn't seem so fat anymore. And I was able to see my beautiful blue eyes and the fact that I was developing a nice tan which was magnifying the blue in my eyes and I smiled at myself. I loved what I saw.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Thursday, 19 May 2011

Is this right for me?

There seems to be no limit as to the variety of methods available to slim from the most bizarre to the dangerous. Common sense doesn't abound but myths certainly do. How do you find out the best way? This is a question that one of my "likers" asked me on my Facebook Fanpage yesterday.

At first I thought "Why are you asking me, I am the author of the Journey of the Slim Soul, of course I am going to say mine." But then I reflected on what brought me to write the book in the first place: the complete and maddening confusion I was experiencing in this dieting world where I couldn't trust anyone as everyone was there to make a quick buck on me and the only part of me that seemed to slim was my wallet.

I went back to source and asked myself the question: what do you do to find out what will work? The answer came clearly "I find out what works for me". As a Reiki Master and spiritual development teacher, I say to my students repeatedly: "No matter what I say, take what works for you and leave the rest." 

What I say to spiritual students applies to my slimming clients just as well, but how do you find out what works for you? Personally, I first ask myself whether what I am being told makes sense. I have a good b**sh***t detector and I have learnt over the years to trust it. Another tool that I use if I still have doubts is my pendulum. I won't go into the esoterics of why pendulums work and how but let's say that pendulums can be a way to access your higher wisdom. They are simple to use: you hold the chain between your fingers, rest your elbow on a table comfortably so you can hold the position long enough and wait for it to start to swing. To find out what is a yes and a no: hold your thoughts on the idea of yes until you see which way the pendulum starts to swing. You need to be able to totally relax so you might want to do a short meditation first. To find out which way is no, do the same. Anything else is a maybe which can mean various things: 1) this is not the right question and you need to formulate it differently 2) you are not ready to hear the answer yet 3) you need to gather more information 4) it is not the right time to ask the question. 

Have fun with your pendulum to find out what is right for you. Refrain from doing what I used to do as a teenager: ask the question over and over again until I got the answer that I wanted. 

Blessings of slimness

Anges de Lumiere

Wednesday, 18 May 2011

What weighs you down

We have just gone to the other side of the moon. It is now waning. The energies are going downwards and this means that the coming two weeks are a perfect time to release.

Most people who are overweight hold in their bodies some sort of trauma or negative emotions. A lot of them are experts at bottling things up. No matter how long ago things happened, if you bottled them up, and even if you don't think about them consciously, the issues will weigh you down.

Today, as the first day of the waning moon, I invite you to do the following: whatever it is you hold grudges on, or feel guilty, or are still in pain about, write it on a piece of paper. If it's a conversation you wish you had had with someone, write it as a conversation. If you are able to contact that person, then perhaps you could do so to clear the air. It's up to you to decide if they might, or not, as the case maybe, be able to hear what you have to say. If you feel they have not grown enough from the situation to be able to engage with you in the healing process, then just do the healing on your own. There is no point at picking at old scabs.

Even if the other person is not ready or is stuck in her/his old ways, you can do a lot to help yourself and to move forward. Write a letter to them and take it all out. When you are finished, burn it. After that, have a nice warm bath with sea salt or perhaps go for a walk in nature. 

Letting go of the past and of hurt is the best gift you can give yourself. And, a surprising benefit of doing so is that you will find it a lot easier to slim.

Blessings of slimness

Anges de Lumiere

Tuesday, 17 May 2011

Full moon visioning

The full moon is a great time to vision what you want in life and to hold the energy in anticipation to it happening in your life. Why not, on this full moon, visualising your body exactly as you want it to be, perfectly slim as nature has wanted it. The moon energy, if used right, will just carry what you ask for and bring it to your life.

Today is the time to do that. Today is the time to reclaim your slimness and to say: it is only a matter of time before my outer shell reflects the slim soul that I am and the slim soul that I have always been. And it is only because there has been a conflict between your inner self and your outer self that things have developped the way they have.

How do you harmonise the two? From the inside. Ignore what you see in the mirror and focus on feeling beautiful inside your mind. Get to the point where you feel joyful no matter what. Feel what it feels like to be the beautiful soul that you are and to know that it is only a matter of time before the outer reality reflects the inner reality. Every day spend five to ten minutes imagining what it is going to be like to enjoy shopping for clothes... to enjoy moving your body... to enjoy being looked at... to enjoy looking at the mirror... to walk around feeling light and energetic and vibrant.

This way, you will be using the law of attraction to manifest a slim body. This can only happen inside out, not the other way round. As long as you continue to see yourself as fat and focus on what you don't want, you will be stuck.

Blessings of slimness

Anges de Lumiere

Monday, 16 May 2011

No computer day

I recommend to my clients to have one day, as part of the eight week programme, without TV. In fact, it's any electronics you are addicted to: it can be TV, phone, mobile phone, computer, playstation... you name it. The reason is that these devices distract us, numb us, have an effect on our energy levels and generally zap our energies and prevent us from living mindfully.

As I am now back on my journey of the slim soul, I decided again, to apply my own advice. And yesterday I had a no computer and internet day. I have been known to get addicted to the internet and particularly to Facebook. Over the past year, I have learnt to manage it, limit the time I spend and get some balance in the process. Having a complete day off felt wonderful. I was able to spend more time with my family, read books, journal... spend time in the garden. A client of mine who had her no electronics day, reported going to bed much earlier and feeling more refreshed.

It is important to use technology for our benefit and not become its slave. With the advent of mobile phones and wi-fi, we tend to be reachable at all times and all places. We can't even escape being "connected' during our holidays, as we used to, or in the evening when we go home to our families. The biggest danger is to become mindless. Mindlessness leads to stress.... stress leads to your body switching to crisis mode... it leads to mindless eating... and a much lower metabolism.

I encourage you to detox from electronics. I enjoyed my day so much that I decided that I would have one electronics free day per week. And I also intend to be completely non reachable during my next holiday. What about you?

Blessings of light

Anges de Lumiere

Friday, 13 May 2011

I am so hungry I could eat.... anything

If this expression is familiar, my advice is: don't wait until you get there. Hunger management is something really important on our slimming journeys. And yesterday, I messed up the first part of the commandment: eat when you are hungry. Stop when you're feeling content. I was having lunch with a girlfriend and she was late. She told me she would be there at twelve thirty and she turned up at quarter to two. I don't mind as such but I didn't notice time and I got so hungry... I could have eaten anything.

And in the past, this is exactly what would have happened. I would have rushed to the vending machine at work. Or if at home, I would have made a bee line to the biscuit tin.

Not anymore. Now I am on my journey of the slim soul, I make sure I snack healthy and never get to the point of being too hungry that I lose control. In fact, I discovered that I am a grazer and that I need several small meals as opposed to three big meals. So probably more like five small meals. Not all cooked obviously.

I used to be so afraid of being hungry (scars from childhood when I was fed when my mother decided it was appropriate for me to eat...) that I would eat any food offered to me at meal times and even outside of meals because I thought (past conditioning) if I don't eat now, God knows when I will have another chance to eat. I used to travel a lot in planes and would never refuse their snacks and meals. Again, not any more. I now easily refuse food, especially plane food.

If you wait too long and get too hungry, not only do you risk eating everything in sight without discernment, but what you eat will profit you double. The reason is that your body will shut down your metabolism and make the most of every scrap of food you will eat (and remember you are now out of control so probably likely to eat twice as much as when you are reasonably hungry) and store most of it as fat in your body. So it's a double loss situation (I know the expression win-win but is there one called loss-loss???).

The bottom line is: stop starving yourself. Make sure your body gets enough food at regular intervals. And if possible don't skip meals, particularly not breakfast.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Wednesday, 11 May 2011

Confession of an ex-addict

I hold my hand up and say: "I am an ex addict. I used to be addicted to sugar." I recently read on the internet (but my mamma said don't believe everything you read on the internet) that sugar addiction is not real. I have to disagree. The only way to really know is to decide not to have processed sugar at all. And this is why there is a detox as part of my programme. Very often it is not until you embark on a detox programme that you realise how much you have been addicted to one processed sugar. Suddenly, you look at all the things you set aside and you panic: how am I going to cope without my cup of coffee with three sugars? This is the crunch. Until you are asked to give it up you can fool yourself into thinking that you don't have a problem.

The problem with sugar is that it is almost in every food we are sold, especially if it is processed. Pasta is sugar. White bread is sugar. Biscuits are packed with it. It finds its way into everything. The food industry loves to sprinkle everything with it because, they are no fools, it makes you want to eat more and more and more. Why would they use so much food and sugar if it wasn't addictive. And until you learn to read labels and detect how they hide it with fancy names such as fructose (that must be good sugar because it sounds like fruit right? No), lactose, glucose... any name ending with "ose" (which rhymes with overdose, by the way - I know I am on a roll today). Fruit juices are mainly packed with that. They claim that it is full of vitamins but most of the vitamins have gone within minutes of pressing the juice (most juices on the market are made from concentrate anyway which is basically pure sugar) so they add synthetic vitamins (which your body cannot process easily anyway). Besides even the fruit juice you might make yourself, is not as good as eating the fruit itself because you need the fibre. And fibre from commercial cereals is not an adequate source of fiber either because it is artificially produced and it is abrasive on the gut like a scratch sponge.

But we are lulled into thinking that having breakfast cereals with a glass of juice is a healthy start of the day. And if this illusion is reinforced by the commercial that we watch on TV that portrays slim people smiling and running around after having their bowl of cereals, then we are going to feel the same, right? I used to. I now know better.

Eliminating processed sugar from your diet does not mean that there will be no sweet things in your life anymore. There is still honey, maple syrup, agave syrup, stevia, xyletol, fruit, raw chocolate and even dark chocolate (as long as there is more chocolate than sugar in it).

I know that during my pregnancy, sugar creeped back into my mouth. I craved sweet things and I gave in. Pregnancy does that to me. This time around, it took the form of nutella. I kept on top of it by spreading it on a banana so that I got some nutrition out of it and curbed the addiction but I am not going to fool myself (we often do when we give into bad habits) I slipped right back into addiction mode.

I am looking forward to do a new detox. I have done two now. And I would suggest that doing a detox once a year is probably a good thing (some people do two a year). After the first one I did three years ago, fruit tasted so sweet and sugar actually felt like an aggression to my system. Grapes tasted as sweet as chocolate cake. In addition to making us realise how we are addicted, detoxes helps our bodies get rid of toxins and there are a lot of those everywhere: in our food, toiletries, cleaning products, clothes, medicine... it's almost impossible to avoid. I will be blogging about that when the time comes.

In the meantime, the best to your journey.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

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Tuesday, 10 May 2011

Nothing different under the sun?

I just saw a post by one of my slim soul clients to say she lost a dress size and was surprised because she didn't feel that she was doing anything different. On the journey of the slim soul, you are not asked to follow an eating plan, to leave out certain foods or take strenuous exercise, yet the changes that you make to your life, albeit subtle, are profound.

The very first change that is powerful yet can be overlooked is when you unlearn the belief that slimming is hard work and a punishment. This is the very first myth busting exercise we do here at the slim soul. We practice believing that slimming is easy and effortlessly and that we are all naturally slim. If affirmations alone don't work, we do it by listening to a hypnotherapy CD that we recommend you listen to every day. Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool to remodel our thinking in a gradual, easy and long lasting way. Where affirmations alone might not work because your subconscious rejects them as too far from the truth, suggestions whilst in trance (a deep relaxation state) are known to work a lot more efficiently.

And if that was not enough, we also use emotional freedom technique to deconstruct beliefs. I rarely allow my clients to embark on their journey of the slim soul until they are totally relaxed about it and convinced that the weight is going to come off easily and effortlessly at the right time. And very often it melts away rather quickly but it is a side effect of a new attitude rather than a goal pursued eagerly and anxiously. And that;'s what I love about the journey. It's easy going and relaxed pace and yet the good results that it delivers.

Blessings of light

Anges de Lumiere

Monday, 9 May 2011

Yum yum

Sunday is my breakfast in bed day where I get to lounge and read a good book with a nutritious breakfast cooked by my man. How much better than that can it get? Yesterday, I got to eat porridge with almond slices, raisins, organic milk and a dash of maple syrup. There were no bananas otherwise I would have had slices on top. Now that's what I call breakfast. How much of it did I eat? Just enough: I stopped when I was no longer hungry and I ate mindfully, which is going to be the topic of another post.

One of the reasons we get fat is that we don't eat food that is nutritious enough. That might sound contradictory because nutritious food has more calories, right? Well, the good news is: calories don't count. They are a figment of our imagination. The best proof is that two people eating exactly the same thing won't profit from it the same way. In addition to that, there are some "nutritious calories" and some "empty calories". To simplify matters, on the Journey of the Slim Soul, I suggest you forget about calories because it is a system that does more harm than good.

First of all, it can be obsessive. You can lose what is really important in terms of food: taste, enjoyment and nutrition. Secondly, as I mentioned before calories do not offer a true reflection of what food does or does not do for you. When I started on my journey of the slim soul, one of my first realisation was that I was not eating enough AND I had completely lost the enjoyment of food. I had become obsessed and I couldn't even enjoy a piece of cake without thinking that it was a naughty pleasure. Stress whilst eating will have a pervert effect on you: it will rob you of the enjoyment of food and as a result your body will ask you more (you won't feel satisfied no matter how much you eat) and your body will store everything into fat because stress = crisis and when you are into crisis your metabolism shuts down to make sure you keep some of that food for rainy days.

Also your body is not stupid. If you feed it "empty" food, that is to say food that is not nutritious (and refined carbohydrates and processed food are not), it will keep your hunger going so that you eat more until it finds what it needs. The less you give it what it needs, the more it will create cravings - no matter what quantity you eat.

So don't compromise on the Yum Yum effect: eat delicious, nutritious foods that will give your body what it needs, a balance of carbohydrates, proteins, fats, vegetables and fruits. Increase how much raw food you eat to increase your energy levels. Don't leave any out. But more important don't leave the taste out either.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Saturday, 7 May 2011

Toxic scales

My beautiful daughter came back from school yesterday feeling awful. She was upset and not her usual self. I asked her: "What is the matter honey? What happened in school?" As part of an experiment, they had all been weighed in school and their weight had been recorded in a chart for statistics. You might wonder what is wrong with that? Well she felt fine before that but then when she was weighed, she realised that she was ten kilos heavier than the average girl in her class including a girl who was a head taller than her and it made her feel inadequate.

My slimming journey commands to ditch the scales and stop weighing ourselves. Do you now understand why? Since birth we have been measured and weighed and our "vitals" have been recorded and compared to others and for what benefit? Are we only worth how much pounds of flesh we measure? All I can see is that my daughter felt fine before she was weighed and after that, she felt awful.  She is perfect. Her body is perfect. It is delicate and slim and that really should be no concern of her. And even if she was more curvy than her peers, that shouldn't be a concern of hers either. Same with my baby girl who is only a few weeks old. She was a "big" baby. Why should I care? Why should she be weighed constantly. She looks healthy. She looks perfect to me.

When I joined a slimming club five years back, no matter how much I tried to ignore the message of the scales (and I did lose two stones) it just didn't work. If I was having a "bad week", then I felt depressed no matter that I had already lost a dress size and felt so much more fabulous than months before.

It is time we realised the toxic power of scales. It is time we resisted the urge that our society has to measure us and pigeon hole us. We each have a unique beautiful body and we are designed at birth to have a perfect weight. If we start analysing our weight in terms of statistics, we are missing the point and creating problems where really there shouldn't be any. I know I have what some people call a "heavy frame" which is that if compared to someone exactly my size I would probably weigh a good ten kilos more, as my daughter does. Weighing ourselves is no measure of how healthy and slim we are.

My invitation today is: ditch the scales. Throw them away once and for all. We have ways to monitor our progress on our journey of the slim soul that are less toxic and more motivating. Scales do more harm than they do good.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Wednesday, 4 May 2011

Water works

Eight glasses a water a day is my prescription. When I explained that to a slim friend of mine, she exclaimed: "Oh that's no news. Everybody knows that!"

You'd be surprised how few people actually drink those eight glasses of water per day. They might drink but not water. Coffee, tea and fizzy drinks are not the same because for the most part they do not hydrate but on the contrary have a diuretic effect. You don't want your body to be drained of fluids, you want it hydrated properly. Dehydration leads to all sorts of nasties health wise. Dr Batman, an Iranian doctor who was a political prisoner for decades did a fascinating study whilst in prison that showed that most illnesses could be cured by drinking more water: constipation, heart diseases, allergies and a host of other diseases. How did he find out? He was appointed the official doctor for the prisoners but was only given water to cure them. So he used the only thing he had and it worked in 98% of cases.

One of my clients lost a stone in six weeks only by applying that "obvious" trick. She couldn't believe what happened. What I have observed when you drink eight glasses of water a day (and as I said fizzy drinks and squash don't count) is that you do three things. First, you no longer eat to quench your thirst. And believe me this is something a lot of people do. They mistake the signs for thirst with signs for hunger and eat when they should be drinking water. Second, you detox your taste buds from the sugar and sweetness overload which results in you subtly but surely eating more healthily. Third, you feel a lot more energised so you probably have the mental energy to make the changes you want to make and to move that beautiful body of yours.

Frankly, these benefits are invaluable... and for so little effort. If someone proposed a diet based only on adding eight glasses of water a day and not changing anything else I do and guaranteed some results... I would jump at it. Wouldn't you?

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Tuesday, 3 May 2011

Summertime and the slimming is easy

Relaxing on our journey to slimming is one of the Seven Golden Rules as explained in my book, the Journey of the Slim Soul. It might not seem very serious to you but it is. It comes from years of experience as a clinical hypnotherapist but don't take just my word: scientists have found that supposedly "fatty foods" don't make you put on weight per se, it is the combination of the unhealthy eating WITH stress that makes it work against you. This confirms my theory that what you eat is as important as what you think whilst eating what you eat. It doesn't mean we should eat what we want regardless of whether it is healthy to eat what we do. What it means though is that no matter what you eat: if you are stressed whilst you eat, you won't benefit from what you eat or if you eat something that is not very nutritious, then your body will be worst off for it.

This all points us in the direction of being mindful what we think and how we feel when we eat. It is my personal experience that if I eat whilst stressed, or if I eat on the back of being upset, the food doesn't feel right no matter what I eat. In addition to that, when I am upset, I would tend to reach out more for junk food than if I am not. When I do eat sugar loaded foods and I am stressed and upset, I know this will certainly not do me any good whereas if I ate the same food whilst enjoying them and being in the right frame of mind about not worrying about it, then I am at an advantage.

Naturally stlim people do not worry about eating pizza and they enjoy eating their pizza when they do which also means they don't crave pizza and actually probably don't eat it that often. They can even leave a portion of their pizza on the side of their plates. Now that's what I call relaxed eating.

When I started on my journey of the slim soul over four years ago, I was made aware of the fact that I had never, up to then, relaxed around food: ever. I approached food with the desperation of a starved person because I did not eat enough and had been conditioned to worry about food constantly. I was either worried that I was not eating the right food or that I would not have enough. There was always some negative association with food. I had been raised to eat when I was told and what I was given and so I had lost the sense of what was right for me. I had also been conditioned to think that I was genetically fat and because of that, constantly worried about what I ate, never enjoying food without worry.

My very first learning was to relax around food. To trust that my body had its own wisdom and that I could enjoy food without having to obsess about it. This also led me to the possibility of actually not eating when offered food as I now trusted two processes: (i) that I knew better when I needed to eat AND (ii) that the food would always be there for me later if I wanted it. And that's when I suddenly stopped being a slave to food and when food became my friend. The relaxation and well being coming from that internal shift was worth my weight in gold. And at that time, I was a lot heavier than now, so you can imagine how precious it was.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

Monday, 2 May 2011

Sleeping beauty

One of the most challenging aspects to being a mother of a new born is the lack of sleep. All "young" mothers would agree with me. Yet on our journeys of the slim soul, getting enough sleep is the most important element of all. If we fail to get the rest and sleep we need, we will inevitably put on weight or at least fail to slim for two reasons: one is that sleep is essential for our metabolism to be functioning properly (and this has been evidenced by scientific research) and second is that when we feel tired our appetite not only becomes broader and more difficult to sasiate but also we crave more junk foods, particularly sugars. But unlike when we are rested, the big quantities of sugars that we ingest do not bring relief to our hunger. The reason is that it is not technically hunger but a compensation mechanism for the tiredness. Hence a vicious circle of overeating sugars, which are very addictive to start with, which leads to cravings and mood swings which probably don't help the sleep. We are stuck in a circle that makes us cranky and heavy.

So how do we do make sure that we get enough sleep? As a clinical hypnotherapist, I can only encourage you to relax and simplify your life and keep stress to a minimum. Relaxation tapes are wonderful for this but don't wait for things to get serious before you listen to one.

You might think that it is easier said than done to simplify one's life and I would agree with you. It takes dedication and courage because in many instances it means standing up for yourself and learning to say no. This is precisely the reason why one of the first exercises in my eight week programme is about learning to say no to others and yes to yourself. In my case, right now, this means that I do minimal housework and put my priorities towards sleeping when my angel baby girl is sleeping so we can both be found like the sleeping beauties that we are at all times or day and night. I have to resist the urge to keep my house in a relative house of cleanliness for guests to come. I go further than that, I try to avoid guests as much as I can so that the precious times when my angel baby girl sleeps can be put to good effect by me and enable me to rest.

I had never done that with my previous children but it works wonders. Not only do I get the rest that I need but she also seems to be a much better sleeper than her brothers and sister ever were. Part of it is also because we sleep together and I carry her in a sling most of the time. She never looses my sight. But that would be the subject of another blog all together about "attachment parenting" which works wonders for both mums and babes.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere

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Sunday, 1 May 2011

Bach flowers to the rescue

We probably don't realise how strongly beliefs hold us back on our journey of the slim soul. Two of the strongest beliefs that I have come across are: it's going to be hard work and I am not naturally slim (or I have a low metabolism). Beliefs are only thoughts we think are true. As long as we want to entertain them, they will be our unshakable reality. Nothing anyone says will touch them as we will ignore and sometimes not even hear what people say that does not fit with how we see the world. Personally I was plagued by both for a long time.

How do we get rid of unhelpful beliefs? If we are dealing with negative beliefs, I have found the Bach flower remedies to be of immense help. And so today, on my third day of the slim soul diaries, I am going to look into which ones would best help me right now to progress on my journey. We don't like to think we are negative people and so, sometimes, we repress our negative feelings but that does not solve the problem. All it does is pushing them underground into the subconcious and it is the subconcious that overides everything.

Dr Bach flower remedies offer a solution to this by realigning the personality with the soul in subtle but powerful ways that works much better than simple affirmations because they work at the level of the subtle bodies.

At this point in my life, I feel I need three essences: Sclerantus, Walnut and Star of Bethlehem.  Scleranthus because I have a very difficult decision to make about my daughter's education. Walnut because I just had a baby and am having to deal with huge changes in my life and body right now. Star of Bethlehem because me and my baby had to spend a traumatic seven days in hospital after her magical home water birth and I need healing. Bach flowers are very gentle and meant to be used as "self medication" essences. You cannot overdose on them and even if you were to chose the wrong ones, all that would happen is that they wouldn't "work" because the shift would not be needed. I could either take drops of each of these essences individually throughout the day or blend them into one little jar and take that blend throughout the day. It is usually best not to use more than seven essences at one point in time, so I am happy with my choice of three.

Blessings of lightness

Anges de Lumiere